A spiritual connection is better than a physical attraction

Being connected to someone spiritually can create an everlasting impression.  When you're connected spiritually to a person, it simply means you believe in sight beyond what you can see. A spiritual connection means you will still love someone who has hurt you, or forgive someone who has betrayed you. When you love God and trust God, he will place someone in your life that loves you for what they cannot see. 

A physical attraction can vanish when that figure 8 body vanish, When that long hair vanish,  and when the things you can do for them vanishes. A physical attraction is not meant to last.  One must love a person despite their short comings. One must see the heart and the mind of another.  A relationship is like a tree. It has to be rooted properly in order for it to stand strong. 

A spiritual connection is better than a physical attraction,  because a spirit is omnipresent vs something physical that's not. A person who loves you, should love you whether you're around or not. A person who believes in Christ understands the commitment to you as it relates to their commitment to Christ.  Doesn't mean they're not human and won't make mistakes,  but compared to someone who doesn't believe in Christ are more conscious of there decisions.  

A person seeking a spiritual connection with you is not looking for the beauty you possess on the outside.  They're more in tuned with your inner beauty. They're not looking to see what you can do for them, but what they can do for you. When your physical appearance begins to fade away, that person who has that spiritual connection with you will not. We are not of our own. We must seek salvation and do things that's pleasing to God not man. While looking for love, be sure to include God in the midst. With man nothing is possible.  With God, all things are possible.  Be connected! 

God don't like ugly, but he ain't to fond of pretty neither

As we walk our walk of life, we are faced with those that are beautiful and those that are not so beautiful.  The question is, what is your definition of beautiful?  Do you consider a person with green eyes, blond hair,  cute in the face, thin in the waist, and empty minded beautiful?  Or do you consider the person with hair like whool, ugly in the face, thick in the waist,  but heart and mind pure as snow beautiful?

I think over time we've been mislead.  We look for beauty on the outside,  and forget to feed our insides. What you put in your mouth doesn't make you a beautiful person.  What you let come out does! The bible says" out of the abundance of the heart,  the mouth speaks". If you are constantly hurting someone that loves you, or loving the person that's hurting you. You are an ugly person.

You can't deem yourself more blessed than someone else because you desire things that others don't and receive them. All news ain't good news. Everything you recipient ain't meant for your come up. God gotta take you through some things in order to get you closer to other things. He will give you what you want, if you want it that bad. He never said you'll keep these things though!  God is a jealous God.

Your pretty face won't guarantee you a spot in the kingdom.  Your thin waist won't guarantee you either. What you do for christ will last. That's why the song says" by the way, what have you done for me lately? ". Have you prayed for those that has tried to persecute you? Have you gave a stranger some food that was hungry?  Have you invited someone to your place of worship?  Do you boast and brag about God, as you do that man or woman you love so much?


Greater is he that is in me than he that is in the world. We're all human and we make mistakes.  That's why I say" God don't like ugly, meaning your ways, your thoughts,  and your reactions. He ain't to fond of pretty neither,  meaning you can know good, but if you're not doing good.  You're just as ugly with your cute self!". Be blessed

know when to stand up, and when to sit down!

We must know when to stand up, and when to sit down. Part of standing up as I look from the biblical point of view, is telling someone about who you believe in and not how they should believe. Standing up is going to take alot of standing out. You can stand up to a judgmental person who questions your beliefs.  You can stand up by proving in your actions not your words. A believer in christ has no look, smell, or touch. A believer in christ says you can when everyone else says you can't.

You can stand up by not just preaching the gospel,  but administering in your life. God says" his divine grace will use you so that our people can see him". You have to know when to sit down. It is not for you to condemn those who don't believe.  It is the work of God to show up in their lives and show out. You can sit down after you've given then the resources and letting them go to the source themselves.

You must learn when to stand up and when to sit down, because if you stand up when you should be sitting down" God" will knock you down. You are not of your own. The bible says" lean not into your own understanding". Every church isn't filled with saved people,  and every person that quote scriptures isn't holy. How do you know? You know because,  they judge people when the bible says" judge not". They tell people what they are and aren't.. When God says " I am the way, the truth, and the light".

You gotta learn when to stand up, and when to sit down because when it's all set and done. Those who kneel down to man,  Must stand before God.  Everyone will be held accountable for their sins. Repent, Repent, Repent.  Know when to stand up, and know when to sit down!

How can you love man without loving God?

How can you love without knowing the essence of it. Love is patience,  love is kind, and love is felt most when it's Genuine.  Love is an action word. When loving someone you are taught that actions has to justify the word. Spirituality is a belief in something other than yourself.  A higher power,  and believing in things we can not see.

When you first fall in love,  you base it off of how someone has made you feel. That feeling of endless memories and unpredictable moments and trust in one another.  The same as spirituality.  You've seen pictures and heard of the holy spirit,  and it's endless memories and unpredictable moments.  As we read about spirituality, and understand the word. We can affiliate love with spirituality, because they both have an unpredictable beginning and ending. You know the meaning of both words, but not sure how to implement them.

One with out the other is an epic failure.  You need to have a closeness to a higher power before you can completely get in love and stay in it. You must understand that there will be disappointments,  disagreements, and arguments. In your understanding of spirituality you will also understand that one year for us is a thousand years with God.  If you can't love and believe in God, then you can't love and believe in man.  God will not always do things the way you want or when you want, but he'll give you what you need when you need it.

You need Spirituality and love like you need gas in a car. It won't work without both!  How many times have you've looked at your significant other and said" I don't want this anymore but didn't go anywhere and something good eventually came out of it?". Love without spirituality is like faith without works, it's dead! Your mind and spirit has to be binded to something other than yourself.  We must believe that when we feel like giving up, we can't because it's a requirement to stay in what we were assigned to do. I'm not saying" stay in an abusive relationship", but I am saying" stay in a relationship that has love but disagreements".

Disagreements are normal, being abused isn't.  We all may not know if we should believe or if there is a holy spirit, but one things for sure is that" we didn't create ourselves!". Somebody or something did, according to whatever you believe.  With that higher power, (mines being Jesus) can fix things that's broken if you believe or want it to be fixed. The bible says" chose yeah this day whom you will serve!". As for me, I'm gonna serve the lord. When asked, how can you love man without loving God? Just simply say" I can't! ". I must Love God first, because he first loved me. Then and only then can I fully understand that I have to do unto others as I would want done to me!

What is love without sacrificing?

What is love without sacrificing?  Love without sacrificing is failure.  While loving one another one must realize the ability to give and take is what keeps the fire burning in your relationship.  We cannot become over burdened in trying to do it all by ourselves.  When we try to love each other, but spend more time doing everything without each other. We lose the concept of togetherness which is what love is all about.


What is love without sacrificing?  Love without sacrificing is an accident waiting to happen. We often times get so wrapped up in doing our own thing that we forget to do the things that really matter. We must learn to hold each other accountable and set goals.  Give each other friendly deadlines and make commitments to each other. Ex: We are going to the movies Friday! Oh, sorry babe I can't go. I must go to do my nails! How about you do your nails tomorrow,  since today is the only day we both have together to spend quality time alone. Okay, you're right. I didn't think of that. Two heads are better than one. Communicate with each other.

Making a sacrifice will help you more than it will hurt.  Every relationship needs love and sacrifices to be made in order for it to work, so when asked: what is love without sacrificing?  Say" a heart full of hurt and disappointment".

You're not in love. You're in love with the thought of being in love!

Love is a good feeling. Love is what love does. When you're Asking yourself if you really love this person.  It usually means you don't.  Loving someone is to love them even when they're not doing things your way. If the love you have for a person is questionable every time they say" no" then it's not love you're in. If you love someone that continuously hurts you. It's not love that you're in. Ex: he/she cheats on me with other people, but I can't leave him/her because they cook, financially support,  and caters to me.

It's not love that you're in. Sounds like you're in love with the thought of being in love. A person who loves you will not cheat on you, or do things to jeopardize your feelings or relationship.  If you're more concerned with losing what A person does for you rather than how they treat you Then it's not love that you're in. You're in love with the thought of being in love. The love you have for somebody,  or that they have for you should not be measured by what they do for you. It should be measured by how they make you feel.

If a person is abusing, using, cheating and disrespectful to you but they continue to pay your bills. Do you consider that love? Love hides all those flaws, because you want to be in it.  Love is a good feeling.  If it's hurting you more than it's helping you. Then it's not love that you're in. You're in love with the thought of being in love.

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On time God

We often pray for the things we want verses the things we need simply because it's easier to receive the things you want rather than the things you need. Example: Lord I want a new car? Knowing you have one already. Lord I need a roof over my head and a job to pay for it. Knowing you don't have either, and you've been praying and waiting.  The good news is God will give you what you ask for, and then give you the things you need.

Please pray and be specific.  We think we want the things we ask for until we get it. If you have the things you need already, don't be overzealous.  If that car your driving is in good condition and you don't have a stable place to live, pray for stability not quantity.  God will give you more bills if you ask for them, but he'll also give you the direction to get rid of some bills if you ask him too. The same God that gives you the things you want will be the same God to take away the things you don't need.

We gotta stop being conditional praisers. We must learn to pray Harder when things are going bad in our lives, so the victory dance can be better when things start to go well for us. The bible says" your greater will be later". God is not a right now God. He's an on time God. Things will work in your favor when you believe.  Faith without works is dead. If your prayer is about receiving a man or woman,  don't just ask for any kind of man or woman.  Ask God to send you a specific kind of man or woman.  God knows what you need before you say you need it.

If you're asking God for a job, don't ask for any kind of job.  We must be specific in our prayers to God. If you're praying for a person,  say their names in your prayer.  God can do anything but fail. He's a healer,  deliverer,  and a way maker. We must pray and wait. For, God is not a right now God. He's an on time God.

rejuvenation time!

How do you know when you need to rejuvenate?  You'll know when the little things become big things, and small things become large. Examples: babe, why are there dishes in the sink? Because you put them there! These are avoidable arguments that could easily be solved with a break away from it all.


Sometimes you and your significant other have to designate time to be a lone.  No dishes,  laundry,  cooking,  or cleaning.  When you find yourself worrying or nagging your significant other about things that have no significance,  you need to be rejuvenated.  The key to any relationship is acknowledgment.  You have to first acknowledge the issue and address it.

I think when you realize this is happening,  one or both must say" babe, we need to rejuvenate!  This is not us'". At that time you can take some time away from the things that's causing stress in your relationship and focus on what's important,  the relationship!  If you continue on the stress without rejuvenating,  you could lose your relationship.  Taking a trip, riding a bike,  running,  listening to music,  or meeting at dinner could save your relationship if you acknowledge that you're at a point we're your relationship needs to be rejuvenated.

God will do just what he said he will do!

You've been praying,  You've been fasting,  You've been asking to be delivered,  but you fail to allow God to do it. When we pray we must believe.  Faith without works is dead. We must stop praying and worrying. God said" if your yolk is not broken and your burdens are hard to bare, your yolk can be destroyed.  Just take your burdens to God and leave them there.

We must learn to trust God. He is the author of all our books called life. He will not take you somewhere he can't keep you. The good thing about God is that he does for you whether you ask him or not. Ever wondered how you escaped that car accident with no cuts or bruises?,  That fire with no burns?, and that man or woman who hurt you so bad, with a mind stayed on Jesus? . God will do it!

We must believe in the power of prayer if we're going to pray. Let God be the head and not the tail. The beginning and the end,  for whosoever believes in him shall have life more abundantly.  If you've prayed and asked God to do somethings in your life, be anxious for nothing.  God said in his word" Ask and you shall receive". Be patient!  God will do just what he said he will do.

Are you in love, or the thought of being in Love?

Don't listen to society when it tells you that you need a man/woman.  One must make themselves complete before looking for the completion from others.  Do you want a man/woman?  Yes! Do you need a man/woman to be happy? No! When you think of love, you think of staring into your partner's eyes,  and seeing his/her soul. Taking long walks through the park holding hands reminiscing on the old and looking forward to the new.

Why is it that we want to be in love so bad, that we don't realize love is not always going to be beautiful and easy. If you're with someone right now that cooks because you won't,  cleans because you don't,  and loves you even though you don't love them. Then you gotta ask yourself?  Do I love this person? Or do I love the things they do for me?. If you have no physical,  mental, or emotional attraction to the person and all you can think about is " what they do for you" You are not in love,  you are in love with the thought of being in love.

It's not a must to be in a relationship,  marriage,  or friendship.  A person should never be credible by what he/she does.  You should look for  credibility in how they do it. Everyone isn't meant to be in Love. You can love a person and not like them, just as well as like them but not love them. Most people spend their lives living a lie,  simply because they like what love looks like. If you can't with stand that person who does so much for you, when they're not doing it. Then you're not in love. You're in love with the THOUGHT of being in love!

Valentine's Day Fever

Some have it, but most don't.  A lot of you are skeptical about Valentine's day, because you're not sure of the person you are. Love doesn't come from the other person.  Love starts with you! Valentine's Day is a designated day to show love,  appreciation, dignity,  and pride for yourself or the significant other.  You don't have to have a valentine to celebrate it!

If you're seeking love on valentines day and you haven't had it all year long, then you might as well think of Valentine's Day as an ordinary day. Love starts with YOU! Being alone doesn't mean you're lonely,  and just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean you're happy! If you love who you are, then you will take yourself to dinner,  network with people that know people you like, and find yourself smiling just because you love who you are.

It's nice to have a Valentines Day companion to celebrate with, but if you don't it's okay too. Learn to love yourself even when nobody else doesn’t,  and you'll never have to despise valentines day. The day did nothing to you, YOU did! Learn how to love, and who to love. Starting with YOU!

The  truth about Love, Spirituality, and Sacrificing.

Very often people mistake Love with lust. Love is patient and love is kind. Love is felt most when it's genuine.  People often affiliate love with outer appearance neglecting the need to seek love from it's inner appearance.  How often do we accuse people of changing once in a relationship?  Many times! Simply because the lust for that person got you into the relationship in the first place. You liked the way they treated you, the things they said to you, and the way they made you feel. So, how does that change once in a relationship?  It changes because it was never who they really were before the relationship,  but you couldn't see that because you were so in Lust.


Love doesn't change, love gets stronger before it gets weaker, love is forever. When people change, the love you have for that person won't.  Lust is what changes they way you feel about the person once they're gone. This is where spirituality comes into play. One must have a spiritual connection to the holy spirit to understand that nothing or nobody is perfect.  One must believe in things they can't see in order to maintain a healthy relationship (faith). Without faith and a vision that is equally shared, the relationship will perish.

The bible talks about being equally yoked.  In other words, one must have the same vision for the relationship.  Things don't have to be done the same way, but it should have the same end result.  In order to accomplish this, one must learn how to sacrifice.  There will come a time where you'll have to give up the "I's" for "us' s", and the "me's" for "we's". It takes two hands to clap. A relationship, friendship, or a marriage will never work until you learn how to love, gain spirituality,  and sacrifice.